Finding Your Inner Harmony

By Jelila
The Bali Times

SEMINYAK ~ Inner peace sometimes eludes us for some unusual reasons – which may even be related to deep, warlike, subconscious fears we picked up a long time ago. Find out how to relax and discover inner harmony, here.

Our consciousness is eternal. Think of our endless series of lives as being like a long-running soap opera in which we experience all shades of mood and character and explore broad themes and patterns. Ultimately we overcome such patterns – for example, why we always attract the same kind of partner – as we finally learn the lesson and discover a new way of doing things.

Past life healing is a fast-track to resolving patterns, in one fell swoop, saving you from having to go through similar situations again and again.

Case Study – Past Lives

David came to me experiencing intense feelings about an argument he had with his partner, the topic of which did not merit feelings of such intensity. I explained something was pushing a button, keying in to old feelings, and suggested a past life journey.  David laid down and I guided him to a relaxed hypnotic state using a special visualization. He drifted back in time, seeing himself as a warrior in ancient China, riding a horse, fighting violently to the death. Using special safety techniques, I guided him to acknowledge his feelings – fear, anger, pain and desperation. This released the feelings, permanently freeing the pattern. I guided him to pick up the learning from the experience, then allowed him to float back to the present in his own time.

David said afterwards he felt “great – relieved and freed” and had begun to understand more about the argument with his wife. We then discussed the polarity of either fighting to the death for something or doing nothing at all about it and it transpired that David subconsciously believed that he had to fight to the death in order to survive.

This belief, left over from past conflicts, is actually very common. Do you feel that you must always win? Do you always put maximum energy and effort into everything? Do you refuse to take no for an answer? Are you extreme, either set to “maximum” or “off”? Or conversely, do you sit on the fence and do nothing, afraid to take any action at all? If you answered yes to any of those, then you may be suffering from this very important belief limiting your choices, which I’ll explain how to change in a moment.

David literally felt, subconsciously, that in any situation, he had to fight to the death. In everyday situations, such as a contract negotiation, a conversation with his builder or a disagreement with his spouse, he would go in with all guns blaring – or he would back down completely. If you are afraid that the ultimate consequence of standing up for yourself is going to be the death of yourself, or of another, the fear of such dreadful outcomes can make you avoid conflict – at all costs. However, that aversion then attracts conflict, about the things we have refused to discuss or face.

When you do engage, you must go to the absolute max in order to win. Or alternatively, refuse to fight at all, even to try (which is probably a more evolved strategy in a way; however, in David it was being downtrodden by his partner, making him unhappy). When David ultimately reached his final limit, and drew the line, his partner, with the same belief, was threatened and went into attack mode, to “defend her position – on top”; hence the huge conflict “over nothing.”

The setting for the marital argument was a traditional Balinese-style hotel, with a photograph commemorating the puputan on the wall. The puputan (ending) was the demise of Balinese royalty in Bali, where the heads of state chose to kill their own children, and themselves, in mass suicide, to avoid domination by the Dutch. This extreme behavior again reflects the subconscious idea that we need to fight to the death in order to survive. What happens is that being at one or other extreme of the polarity – do nothing, or fight to the death – we unwittingly rob ourselves of the huge range of shades of other choices in between.

Shades of Choice Meditation

Relax, breathe and find yourself walking along a gully in the earth that has been dug out of the ground. You cannot see out over the top, although there is sky above you and an intimation of grass beyond the tops of the curved earthen walls. Continue along the gully to a large darkened room with yellow lights dotted around that feels rather like a train junction. At each light, pick up a book chained there, and read. You may also write. Suddenly you notice a special, very tall being has arrived, and you are able to approach them and enquire about anything you need to know, for as long as you wish. When ready, gently return.

Belief Change

To free yourself from some beliefs that can limit you, use this process. Simply say the following aloud (the belief is in italics). Repeat the process on the other beliefs listed below.

I choose to believe I must have to fight to the death in order to survive.

I love myself when I believe I must have to fight to the death in order to survive.

And I embrace it, and I surrender.

Rest afterwards, drink water.

Related Beliefs:

I’m afraid I have to fight to the death in order to survive.

I’m afraid of conflict.

It is not safe to engage.

Postscript: David could see new possibilities opening up for negotiation rather than warfare, and felt freed by his new discovery. He resolved to experiment with new shades of choice in relating with his wife, and indeed in every area of his life.

This week, why not discover the “shades” that are open to you in every situation – and try on some new ones?

If you have a problem or query you would like be helped with in this column, please write to Jelila at Best query receives an autographed Introductory Healing Journey CD by Jelila.

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Jelila is magical healing singer and intuitive guide, practicing in Asia and Australia. Now offering individual transformation sessions in Seminyak, Bali, at Health & Beauty Spa, Jl. Dyana Pura 6B. Tel:  +62 (0) 81 239 43354.

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