Spiritual Times – Shaping Your Destiny

By Jelila
For The Bali Times

SEMINYAK ~ Is your life gently unfolding just the way you want it? Or are you on an out-of-control rollercoaster ride? How much are you enjoying your journey? Find out how to get more juice from the journey you are creating, here.

The word destiny denotes an idea of a preordained future, and also has a spangly, star-like feeling of “the best that one can possibly attain.” But how much control do we have over that? Did we design our destiny before we were born, or are we creating it as we go along?

To find out, feel, hear, sense, or see the scene in this easy meditation:

Relax, breathe and imagine watching yourself getting onto a joyride. Notice your expression as you get into the vehicle. Take a deep breath and suddenly the vehicle takes off with a whoosh! Notice how much control you have. There seem to be some knobs and levers – what happens when you press them? Enjoy playing, visiting any destinations you desire. Notice who is in the car with you. Play for as long as you like and when ready, gently return to the room.

What did you experience? How did you feel about getting into the ride? How did you feel during the journey, and how did you feel about controlling it?

Exercise – Destiny

Write down the first thing that comes into your head in response to the question:

“Life is …” Repeat it 10 times and just allow what comes. Now underline any words that don’t seem good to you, or seem strange. (The subconscious mind has valuable messages for you – just allow it to be, and work with it as it is).

This is what my client Sean wrote during a Destiny healing session:

Life is cannelloni

Life is a can of words

Life is delightful

Life is sensational

Life is heavenly

Life is fun

Life is sea-sick

Life is destiny

Life is divine

Life is fun

Sean underlined cannelloni, sea-sick, and a can of words. I asked him what cannelloni made him think of. “Bone marrow,” he said. “A tube with nourishment inside.”

“And is that how you feel about life?” I smiled.

He laughed and said, “Well, the journey is a like a ride down a tube, and it’s good that it’s nourishing.”

So we decided that number one was okay after all. Sea-sick? I asked, “Sick of being here?”

Sean looked queasy so I guided him to embrace that belief to release it from his subconscious (you can try it too, below). Lastly, a can of words? “What does it make you think of?” I asked.

“Alphabetti Spaghetti,” he said. “Words and letters, yet all mixed up.”

I guided Sean in a creative visualization, to imagine all the words in the spaghetti tin organizing and arranging themselves. He saw them coming together in strands like paper happy birthday signs. (I also felt intuitively that it represented DNA strands organizing themselves). Sean felt clearer and happier after that. The other choices that he had made about life were very positive – sensational, delightful, heavenly, and so on – Sean is already very aware, and his mostly happy life reflects that. (Notice he said “life is destiny” – meaning he knows he is already living his destiny).

Other clients, when doing this exercise, have answered “Life is hell,” “Life is misery,” “Life is wasted,” “Life sucks,” “Life stinks.” Simply embrace any answers that seem negative using the belief process below, to permanently release them. Then you can create the life that you dream of (because your real life simply reflects what you believe about it – like a mirror.)

By the way, if you see life as “a bed of roses,” make sure you know they are thornless!

The language of the subconscious is pictorial: to understand any image or idea presented in a dream or creative visualization, simply notice how that image makes you feel, and what it reminds you of. In this way, you can unpack the meaning and understand the message. The first thing you come up with is always the right thing, because it is coming from your subconscious – it can only come from you, right, because you are the one thinking it.

Another client, Terry, working on the Destiny theme, believed: “I am on a mission here” (in life). This made him feel that he had to get in and out as quickly as possible to get the job done, creating great stress in the way he dealt with situations in his life. We changed this, and he suddenly beamed and said: “Life is a buffet!”

What would your best life motto be? How about Life is a bed of strawberries or Life is a wonderful joyride? Take a moment now to choose a beautiful new motto to shape your ideal destiny. Write it down, put it on your fridge and say it often.

Belief Change:

Experience this simple process now to release these deep beliefs for yourself.

Relax, breathe deeply. Connect with the active, working part of yourself and invite it to be present. Invite in the feeling, intuitive part. The playful one. And the wise one. With all of you present, say aloud:

I choose to believe “I am not living my destiny.”

I love myself when I believe “I am not living my destiny.”

And I embrace it, and I surrender.

Take it slowly, rest afterwards, drink water.

Repeat the process for each of these:

I am not living my destiny

I feel sea-sick, sick of life

I don’t really like life

I am a missionary

I am wasted

I don’t appreciate my contribution here

I am not my best thing, ever

My process is wasted

Life is … “hell, wasted, hard, bitter …” etc. – put all your negative ideas about life from the exercise above and release them.

Postscript: After the sessions, Sean felt happier and more comfortable, and Terry was able to relax and enjoy his new “smorgasbord of life.”

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Jelila practices healing in Bali at Wellbeing Spa, Jl. Laksmana 66B, Seminyak. Tel: +62 (0)361 735573. If you have a question you would like help with in this column, please write to Jelila at jelila@jelila.com.

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