Get Motivated – and Get Cracking
By Lydia Wilson
For The Bali Times
KEROBOKAN ~ In the past few weeks I have had questions about how we can motivate ourselves in our lives, and I will share with you what I know about it in the hope it can assist you in finding motivation in your daily life.
I have had many clients who have come for help for their procrastination and lack of motivation. Sometimes I feel unmotivated and leave things till the last minute and then panic to try and get them done in time, but before I do, it’s at the back of my mind and makes me feel uneasy.
What usually happens when we need to do something but don’t feel the energy or the motivation to do it is that we feel angry with ourselves for being lazy. Wouldn’t it be nice if we had the motivation to do all the things we need to do every day without delay?
Motivation is a state of readiness or eagerness to change, which may fluctuate from one time or situation to another.
There are two kinds of motivation. One is “away from motivation,” which usually comes when we wish to change a situation that we don’t like to be in, such as when we are sick and wanting to get better. As we feel uncomfortable with our illness, we feel the drive or the motivation to go to see a doctor or to find a way to get our health back again. Once we get better, the motivation disappears.
The other kind is “towards motivation,” and it only comes about when we have a definite goal of what we wish to achieve. Whether they are big goals or small, it’s important to have them. Without having a goal to reach, we will not find the motivation to do anything. Divide the big goals into sub goals or small daily goals, because that makes it easier for us to achieve our bigger goals.
Any goals, whether big or small, will motivate us if we have a clear idea of what it would feel like to have it and how we are going to achieve it.
First of all we need to set a goal and write it down. Here is an example of a goal-setting:
I weigh 68kg and would like to reduce my weight by 10kg.
Goal: What do I wish to achieve? By when should I achieve this goal?
A goal should be doable and achievable in a set period of time.
I would like to reduce 10kg of weight and weigh 58kg by June 30, 2009.
Benefits: What emotional benefits will I derive from achieving this goal?
The stronger the emotional benefit it would bring, the higher the motivation would be.
It would feel wonderful to be able to fit into all my nicest clothes again. It would be great if I could save a lot of money from not having to buy new clothes. When I am fit and slim, I would feel great and confident about my looks.
Obstacles: What stops me from achieving this goal?
Do I have any hidden fears that hinder me from achieving my goal?
Knowing the obstacles that hinder us from achieving our goals is very important, so that we can figure out a way to overcome them.
I eat chocolates when I feel stressed.
I find exercising and going to the gym boring.
Dieting is making me feel more stressful.
Actions: What specific steps must I take to overcome the obstacles to my goals?
I will stop buying chocolates. I will buy fruits and vegetables that I can snack on instead.
I love dancing and I will turn on the music and dance in my room every morning for half an hour.
I will learn self-hypnosis or meditation to help keep my mind calm and peaceful.
Or I will find professional help that can assist me in overcoming my stress.
Daily visualization work in imagining what we really wish to have is one of the most important things that we can do for ourselves. The stronger the feeling that we can create while we are doing it, the easier it is for us to achieve it.
Within our subconscious mind, time is always now. So create the image of what we wish to have as if we already have it. When we do this, we set the motion for our subconscious to manifest what is that we wish to achieve.
Positive affirmation: I weigh 58kg and I feel wonderful!
Visualization: I imagine how wonderful and confident I am feeling of having the weight of 58kg and how healthy, fit and slim my body feels.
I’ve also found that writing down my daily goals is one of the most effective motivating factors in my life. It consists of a list of “things I will do today.” I usually make the list on a notebook at night, before I go to bed, or first thing in the morning, when my mind is still clear, so that I am aware of what I need to do during the day. When I sit down and make this list, I write down everything that comes to my mind that needs to be done the next day, in no particular order. After the list is finished, I circle the important things that I need to do urgently. After the tasks are completed, I cross them off the list.
The benefits of writing this list are:
It gives us the ability to effectively organize our day.
It reminds us which errands that we need to do urgently and which ones can wait for another day.
It motivates us to do as much as we can as it gives us the feeling of great satisfaction at the end of the day, when we can see how many things we have done by the amount of the crossed items on the list.
It makes us feel great that we have achieved quite a lot of things that day instead of wandering aimlessly throughout it.
It teaches us self-discipline.
It helps us achieve our bigger goals.
I’m sure that for most of us, we have made this list of things to do at one time or another and felt the benefits. Perhaps this is a reminder to do it more regularly so you can feel motivated every day.
Till next week, love and light.
Lydia Wilson is a transpersonal hypnotherapist and trainer based in Kerobokan, Bali. If you have a question you would like answered in this column, write to Lydia at email@example.com. For more go to www.bluelight7.com.