Can’t Buy Love? Indonesia Thinks Foreign Men Should


Alarm bells not wedding bells are ringing over Indonesian proposals to demand a US$55,000 “security guarantee” from foreign men who marry Indonesian women.

Enraged brides-to-be are threatening to flee the country and marry their boyfriends abroad if the government approves the plan, which is part of a wider marriage law reform being pushed by Muslim conservatives.

And befuddled foreign grooms are asking why they are being targeted when stories of foreign men being exploited by gold-digging women are rife in Indonesia.

The proposal requires foreign men wishing to wed Muslim women – it will not apply to Christians or Buddhists or Hindus – to put a guarantee of Rp500 million ($55,000) into a bank.

If the couple divorce, the wife will be entitled to take the money. If they stick together for at least 10 years, they can claim it as “shared property.”

“The provision… is intended to protect the rights of women and their children if their husbands neglect, fail to provide for, leave Indonesia secretly… divorce or do anything which harms their interests,” the bill says.

Love-struck couples are outraged.

“How ridiculous… the government wants to sell me off,” sniffed 36-year-old events organiser Roslina, who is planning to tie the knot with her German boyfriend, Christopher, in September.

“My future husband will pay the amount but that’s not the point. We’ll definitely marry abroad if this becomes law.”

A 24-year-old model who declined to be named said she and her boyfriend, also from Germany, were being unfairly discriminated against.

“It looks like the government has no respect for Indonesian women. It’s crazy to penalise only foreign men. Why not charge local men who marry three or four wives but can’t afford it?” she said.

Her 39-year-old boyfriend, a banker who declined to give his name, said: “It’s a clear statement by the government that it owns its people and it sells them on the meat market.”

“Maybe we’ll also see catalogues in the future of women who are on the market for sale. Maybe I can open an office abroad and start marketing Indonesian women,” he added sarcastically.

Female student Masyita agreed: “People say that love is priceless, but you have to pay a penalty if you fall in love in Indonesia. But don’t worry; it’s only Rp500 million — so cheap, aren’t we?”

The proposal, spearheaded by the Religious Affairs Ministry, will be sent to parliament for approval by the end of the year, an official said.

The guarantee is designed to stop foreigners entering fake marriages in order to set up businesses or buy property in their wives’ names, and to ensure that women are financially secured against divorce, ministry official Nasaruddin Umar said.

“When the women are no longer of use, it’s usually goodbye to them,” he added without providing figures or research to back up his statement.

“Marriage is pure and sacred; it shouldn’t be tainted by lust or personal interests. We want to protect our women.”

The plan has drawn mixed responses from the country’s clerics, women’s groups and lawmakers.

Clerics in the world’s most populous Muslim-majority country have thrown their weight behind the draft bill.

Critics say it will only encourage people to “live in sin” outside of wedlock, leaving women more vulnerable.

“I applaud this proposal. We’ve heard many cases of foreigners marrying our women and then deserting them and their kids with nothing,” Indonesian Council of Ulema chairman Amidhan said.

But lawmaker Iskan Qolba Lubis said: “People want to marry because they’re in love. So why are we making things difficult for them? It’s also discriminatory. We wouldn’t be happy if other countries did the same to us.”

Nia Schumacher of Melati Worldwide, a group which lobbies for the interests of people in mixed marriages, said the proposal would lead to an exodus of “runaway brides.”

“Or the couples may not register their marriages or skip marriage altogether and co-habit instead. Is that what the government wants?” she asked.

Some women’s rights activists say the plan treats women like a commodity and discriminates against foreign men.

“We clearly reject the proposal. It lowers the dignity of women and not all foreign men have that much money,” Association of Indonesian Women in Multinational Marriages (Srikandi) co-chairwoman Emmylia Hannig said.

“If the basis of the law is to protect women, it should apply to both foreign and local men. There are many cases of local men having several wives and ditching them without giving money,” she added.

Roslina said the bill was ruining romances as foreign men walked away from promises.

“My friend has lost a potential husband. She and her French boyfriend had been dating for four years and were planning to get married. But I heard the wedding has been postponed indefinitely,” she said.

“The man said he’s scared to get married because it’s unfair that he needs to pay.”

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4 Responses to “Can’t Buy Love? Indonesia Thinks Foreign Men Should”

  1. Maria Says:

    Peoples rights are not protected by putting a stupid price tag on it. It is degrading for women and I believe it is also sensitive for (more) corruption.
    Rights are to be protected by intelligent laws, their makers and those who enforce it, like courts and judges.
    I’m sorry to say, but I thought of muslims as normally intelligent people, but ideas like these are simply too stupid!

  2. Suzanne Says:

    Sounds like it is discriminatory by virtue of religion as well as gender. The fact it only applies to Muslim women, shows that the misguided law makers must somehow value Indonesian Muslims above those from other religions – even though Indonesia is a pluralistic society. This is despicable and there can be no logic behind this. Again if this were to happen in another country and affected Indonesians, Indonesians would be the ones complaining loudly that they were mistreated. There are many great things that have happen in Indonesia to create a more stable society, but this move is not one of them.

  3. jonycoxx Says:

    for 55,000 bucks do i get a free bintang too?

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